The Most Powerful Shift You Can Make (That Almost No One Talks About)

Here’s what most people forget or don't know when working towards a goal:

What got you here won’t get you there.

To achieve anything new or get to the next level in your life, you need to change.

You have to change what you focus on.

Your habits.

Your routines.

Your thinking.

But the most important thing, the number 1 domino, you can focus on changing is your identity.

Because to have something you’ve never had before or to go somewhere you’ve never been, you have to become someone you’ve never been.

This current version of you isn’t capable of achieving your goal.

(Sorry to break it to you).

But there is a version of you who can.

A version of you that effortlessly has what you want to have and maintains it.

The life you want isn’t impossible or unattainable.

It’s only impossible or unattainable if you never rise to the occasion.

If you never raise your standards to match it.

You can take all the action.

Complete your daily tasks.

Read the books and listen to the podcasts.

But if you never shift at an identity level, the life you want will always feel out of reach.

You aren’t struggling because you lack discipline or because you’re doing the wrong things.

You’re struggling because you haven’t been focusing on changing the true cause of the life you want:

Your identity.

Loyalty to The Wrong One

If you haven’t shifted into ideal reality, it’s because of one thing:

You’re too loyal to your current reality.

You focus too much on what your life currently is than what it can be.

Every time you look at your bank account and it doesn’t match your financial goal…

Every time you complain about your current job because it’s not an ideal career…

Every time you look in the mirror and don’t see the body on your vision board…

Every time you look at other couples and remember that you’re single…

You’re letting the external current reality tell you who you are.

You’re letting the external reality control you and pull you away from the vision you’re working towards.

But here’s the thing you may not realise:

Your reality is a mirror.

A mirror that reflects your identity and what you believe about the world with a slight delay.

If you’re struggling financially now, it’s because you weren’t more proactive with your finances in the past.

If you’re out of shape now, it’s because of the habits, mindsets and actions you did in the past.

If you’re stressed now, it’s because you procrastinated and delayed things in the past.

Your current reality is a delayed reflection of your identity — thoughts, beliefs, actions, feelings, attitudes and habits — of the past.

And when you look to reality to confirm anything, you make yourself vulnerable to falling back into your old identity.

The identity that created the current reality.

Not the new identity that aligns with your vision.

When you're more loyal to your current reality than your vision, your new identity will be too fragile to compete.

Instead of thinking, acting and feeling in alignment with your vision and new identity, you slip into the old identity at every turn.

Reality is simply a mirror that reflects who you are with a slight delay.

So if what you see outside can shift you internally, you will always be living according to the current reality and maintaining it.

If you treat reality as a fixed and unchangeable entity, you will be its puppet, and you will stay stuck in a reality you don’t want to be in.

You aren’t living the life you want because you’re lazy or not trying hard enough.

You could be doing all the right things and taking massive action.

But if you are letting the external influence the internal, you will keep living the same life.

If you let the external tell you who you are, you’re reacting and not creating.

If you let the external have more power over your identity than you over it, you’re living by default and not by design.

You stay the same because your new identity is inconsistent and fragile.

It’s conditional.

You’re confident and successful when things are good, but doubtful and struggling when things are bad.

When things don’t go your way, you say, “Why does this happen to me?”

Your identity is too fragile and bounces between the highs and lows.

And when reality has that much control over you, you can’t create the life you want.

Your loyalty is to the current reality, not the reality you want.

If you want to shift into your desired reality, your vision has to be greater than your current reality.

Your identity has to be greater than your current reality.

YOU 2.0 > Current Reality

Because reality reflects your identity with a slight delay, you have to maintain your 2.0 identity longer.

You have to hold it until reality begins to reflect it.

How long will it take?

I can’t say for certain, but something I learned from Nero Knowledge that hits home is his definition of manifestation:

“Manifestation is internally shifting to a degree where you are no longer emotionally dependent on seeing reality change. Where you are good with it and without it.”

(I recommend you check out his channel.)

When you stop looking and checking if your reality has changed, that’s when it begins to change.

Because at that point, you’ve internally shifted to such a degree where you don’t care.

You're focused on being this version of you rather than having anything in reality.

Your identity is stronger than the reality you see.

And because your identity is stronger, reality has no choice but to reflect it.

Reality is a mirror after all.

Your reality changes when your identity changes.

Not in theory, but in embodiment.

Not on paper, but in practice.

When you can be the new identity so well that you can’t remember your old identity. The old identity will feel like a stranger to you.

You have to be loyal to your vision — even if reality hasn’t caught up yet.

You stop letting reality control you, and you become the source.

Even if things don’t go your way or you fail, you use it as proof that you are achieving your goals and becoming who you want to be.

You lead with your identity and let the world follow.

This is when your identity moves from fragile to indestructible.

And when you are stronger than reality, reality bends to you and your wishes.

So, how do you have a stronger identity than reality?

Let’s get into it.

Be The Stronger Force

Here’s how to start becoming the person who can have the life you want now.

STEP 1: Craft and commit to your 2.0 identity

Define the version of yourself who already lives the life you want.

The version you want to become.

• What are their characteristics?

• How do they interact with others?

• What’s their outlook on life?

• How do they think?

• What are their habits and behaviours?

• How do they handle difficulties, challenges, or disappointments?

• How do they handle successes, wins and achievements?

• What’s their energy like? What’s it like to be around them?

Write this down.

(You can name anything you want.)

Then, commit.

Decide that this version of you is who you are now, and everything else is old news.

STEP 2: Rehearse and remind yourself daily

We become what we repeatedly do.

Identity is built through repetition and practice, not theory.

I recommend creating a document that details your identity and vision. Read it at least twice a day, once in the morning and again in the evening.

Start mentally rehearsing your new identity.

Imagine different scenarios and how your new identity would respond in them.

This isn’t “faking it.”

It’s training your nervous system to familiarise and normalise the version of you you’re becoming.

STEP 3: Be biased. Everything is either a win or an anomaly.

This is where you start living by your vision and not the current reality.

Detach from what reality shows you.

Remember: you are the cause, reality is the effect.

So when something happens that doesn’t align with your new identity, recontextualise it.

“I messed up” becomes “I’m learning how my 2.0 self handles this.”

“I didn’t get it” becomes “The universe is clearing what’s not aligned with the version of me I’m becoming.”

Stop expecting the reflection in the mirror to smile before you do.

Smile first, and then you will see a smile reflected in the mirror.

And if you don’t see it immediately, keep smiling.

Reality reflects it with a delay.

STEP 4: Ditch the duality.

Reality will throw tests to see how unwavering your new identity is.

It will throw good things at you to get a reaction out of you.

It will throw bad things at you to get a reaction out of you.

If you allow yourself to be swayed by these, you’re bending to reality’s will.

This isn’t to say good and bad things won’t happen and not to react, but don’t let yourself get so swept up by the external events that you fall off course.

Your new identity has to be stronger than reality. When it is, reality has no choice but to bend to your will.

Be firm and stead in your new decision and identity.

Act from your new identity, whether you feel good or not.

You’re no longer waiting for permission from reality to be who you want to be, you are being them now.

STEP 5: Stack evidence. Reward alignment.

Every time you embody and act in alignment with your new identity, celebrate it.

Then use it as evidence that you are the new identity.

You’re stacking neural and emotional evidence that this version of you is real.

In neuroscience, it’s said that “neurons that fire together, wire together” and “if you don’t use it, you lose it.”

This relates strongly to your new identity.

The more you embody the new identity, the stronger the neural pathways become for that identity and the weaker the old identity becomes.

The more you do this, the more automatic it becomes.

The goal here isn’t perfection.

The goal is consistency, because with consistency, you build momentum and that momentum compounds.

Soon, the old identity will be your past version that you don’t even recognise.

The new identity will be who you are.

The life you want is not out of reach, and it’s not impossible.

It simply requires that you shift into the kind of person who can have it.

It requires you to be loyal to your new identity and not your current reality.

Don’t wait to become the person you want to be.

Be them now, and reality will shift to match your new identity.

Thank you for reading.

I hope you enjoyed it.

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— Shana